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a post a day, that's all we ask

Even when I’m not blogging, I’m blog-hopping. Specifically, after a hard day at my day job, I visit at least ten blogs – more if I’m working at home and can access the internet at lunchtime.

So I’m going to try something new. Even when I don’t have time to blog, I’ll occasionally post for the purpose of sending you someplace interesting. I’ve thought about doing this before, but some of the posts I really, really love are controversial, and as you know from my rant about mobs (1/21/07), I don’t respect the mindless pile-on, especially when it ends up associating me with opinions I can’t stomach. It’s the Libra in me, I guess.

So if I link to someone else’s blog, and then you notice that I subtly DE-link because the blogger or a commentor makes a comment that curls my toes, well…

(Will this happen? Definitely! I’m shocked by what some of my favorite bloggers say in their comment section – just when I was starting to think we were soul mates)

Confused? Here’s an example. I enjoy blog posts about reviews. I think it’s important for authors, readers and reviewers to discuss the subject, plus it’s fun (serious fun, oxymoronically speaking). But every once in a while, it devolves into author bashing. Or reviewer bashing. Or even reader basing (holy shit!). Frankly, I think we’re all in this leaky boat together, and I’m no cannibal. So when it gets too icky, I’ll hit the delete button. But otherwise, bring it on. Because we really ARE in this leaky boat together, so why not get to know each other. I am you and you are you and we are you and et cetera, right? Every author I know is a reader, not to mention, a closet reviewer. And every reader I know has dreams and imagination, aka a story. And reviewers? They’ve got it all, right? So when any of you cast the first stone, picture me standing on the sidelines, laughing. You guys crack me up.

Play ball, but play nice, or I WILL judge you!


p.s. I’d love to finish this entry with an exciting link, but no such luck. I’ve been reading a post that had promise – about mainstream reviewers who ignore romance – but it turned into a fingers-in-the-ears free for all. Then I checked out the latest version of one of my favorite debates – The HEA: is it just a good idea, or is it an immutable law of physics romance? But seriously, the discussion gets out of hand, so no soup for them either. (Yep, it’s going to be difficult to find the right blog post, but I’m committed. Or at least, soon to be.) Or maybe I’ll just try to post every day myself. That sounds easier now that I think about it. Sigh… blog to you later. – K



( 8 comments — Leave a comment )
Jun. 27th, 2007 03:53 pm (UTC)
Most of us don't have mean/monster commenters, so you should be safe.
Jun. 28th, 2007 04:08 am (UTC)
sideways stuff
It's not just the mean/monsters. It's the ones that go sideways. You're reading along, nodding -- agreeing with some points of view, enjoying some mild debate and a variety of interesting opposing viewpoints. Maybe you even make a comment yourself. Then it all goes sideways.

For example, a blogger makes a perfectly valid point. Then a bunch of commentors agree. So far, so good. Then someone else agrees with the blogger, but takes it in a new direction.

Blogger: I don't like to see characters depicted on covers because I want to use my own imagination about what they look like.

Commentor #1: I agree. I like covers that just hint at what's inside. Let me use my own imagination! Plus, their idea of a handsome man is pretty lame.

Commentor #2: That's why romance doesn't get respect, because of those ridiculous covers.

Commentor #3: I totally agree with Blogger! Yuck! Putting people on the cover is an insult to romance readers. Those publishers think we have no imagination. I won't buy books with people on the cover.

Commentor #4: I agree! Publishers had better wake up. They don't realize we're the ones keeping them in business. Publisher X is the worst offender, insulting us with their idea of what makes a man good-looking. I'm glad Blogger had the guts to speak out against them!

Commentor #5: I love covers with people. I guess that means you think I have no imagination. But I think some of them are beautiful.

Commentor #6: Some of them ARE beautiful, so don't feel bad. Blogger's point is that Publisher X has no respect for romance readers. I agree with her. I won't buy their books either and I'm glad she had the guts to speak out against them. Not that many authors would do it.

Blogger (who just submitted to Publisher X): um....

Hee hee, I usually enjoy these, unless it gets mean. But still, unless I want to check back all day to see where it's gone, I hesitate to endorse stuff. Again, blame the Libra. You should see me with my clients -- sheesh!

But I've never seen yours go sideways, May. And I haven't had it happen on my own blog either. I guess we attract a good group!

Jun. 27th, 2007 03:54 pm (UTC)
And have you seen PBW's post on HEAs today? Hopefully Ever After vs Happy Ever After. ;)
Jun. 28th, 2007 04:09 am (UTC)
I'll definitely read that. I think I'll like it. Thanks!
Jun. 27th, 2007 09:20 pm (UTC)
I just flat don't allow it and I make it clear up front so there are no hurt feelings. Debate is fine. Flaming-poo posts aren't. There was a time when I was far more sanguine about it but I think it's gotten out of hand and I sense that the hotter sites are starting to feel the same way and changing a wee tad to head the debates into more constructive areas.

I seldom de-link but I do put Tool-Tip Hover warnings over links to the more controversial blogs. Most of their content is entertaining but now and then they just HAVE to stir the you-know-what. Can be fun, but if it's not moderated it's depressingly aweful.

Whatever abyss you wandered into don't tell me. Life has been rather nice on the blogs lately.
Jun. 28th, 2007 04:17 am (UTC)
Yep, I think it's gotten more civilized out there too. Maybe it's like the Old West or something. Not that I want it to get TOO civilized.

I love debate -- it's what I live for. I've been told I can argue about anything, and I think it's true. Of course, I've also been told I don't take anything seriously, and that's true too, so I can debate most topics without getting overly invested. (and if it's a topic I feel really strongly about, I won't debate it with anonymous people in an uncontrolled forum.)

No abysses for me lately, anyway. But you never know when one will open up!
Jun. 28th, 2007 11:58 am (UTC)
"(and if it's a topic I feel really strongly about, I won't debate it with anonymous people in an uncontrolled forum.)"

I agree.

I've also learned how to spot "Hit" topics. "Hit" topics are hot button items that begin by laying massive guilt of some amorphous group thereby making everyone who reads it wonder, "Is she talking about me? Oh NO she i'n't!" And you are just sucked into defending yourself and the rest of the world. Good example was a post on a blog about how back-assward Americans are for the fact that all three hundred million Americans don't have passports and are even MORE back-asswards because we -- "We" -- don't get out of the country more. Very "When did you stop beating your wife" kind of topic. Second most pointless abyss I've ever been sucked into. You don't want to know about the first.

From that I learned that if a post puts me immediately on the defensive then walk away.

Love you example of diversion BTW. I never thought about that. Never noticed it but you are right.

Isn't that a lawyer trick? ;-) Leading and diversion?
Jun. 28th, 2007 02:25 pm (UTC)
lawyer tricks
I LOVE lawyer tricks. I used to be a little apologetic about some of the shark mentality, but now it's my favorite part! Um, I mean my second favorite part after truth-and-justice.

I remember that passport discusssion, or one like it -- hilarious, and you're right. My first impulse was to wave my shiny new passport and report that I'd just returned home from Italy, plus I've gone to Mexico a zillion times, and my friends are well-travelled, plus everyone needs to recognize how big and diverse the US is, culturally and geographically blah blah blah.... and then I realized how nuts it was. Especially because they sorta nailed me. I'm too claustrophobic to tolerate bunches of 12-hour plane flights, so until they build the bridge, I'll do most of my travelling on this continent. Luckily, it's a nice place.
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